Republican Senator John Ensign of Nevada has announced he had an extramarital affair in 2008 with one of his own staffers, but he “deeply regrets” it and is “very sorry”. His wife claims that, as a result, their “marriage has become stronger”. (Good work, John!)
I don’t really give a shit. People’s sex lives are their own business. Getting caught up in conniptions over who somebody sleeps with is for people who get caught up in conniptions over who people sleep with. As far as I’m concerned, he’s got nothing to explain; I don’t make it my business to judge other people’s sex lives.
Which is what’s so delicious about this. Ensign does make it his business to judge other people’s sex lives. He was a leading critic of Clinton for doing the same thing he’s been doing now, and in fact demanded Clinton’s resignation. He also announced that Senator Larry Craig was “a disgrace” after he was caught soliciting gay sex in an airport men’s room; Ensign demanded Craig’s resignation at that time, also, just three months at most before Ensign himself began bonking one of his employees. Ensign, it goes without saying, has indicated he has no intention of resigning his own office.
And he is, of course, a complete asshole in every other respect as well - votes with the GOP 92% of the time, has 100% ratings from both anti-choice and anti-gay-rights organizations, supports Constitutional amendments against both flag “desecration” and marriage equality, promotes official mandatory prayer in schools, and on and on. One piece of extreme assholery I particular appreciate is this: he voted against adding coverage for more children under the SCHIP program, but in favor of providing SCHIP coverage to fetuses. You couldn’t ask for a more perfect illustration of Republican dipshit demagoguery.
So I’m torn between glee at seeing him twist in the wind and concern that this just perpetuates the tradition of making people’s private lives fodder for political posturing. Nobody needs to apologize to the public for an extramarital affair (his obligations to his wife are their business, and as she claims to believe it’s a net positive, well . . .). But assholes like Ensign need to apologize for being bluenose busybody prudes, and bigots, in general.
And so I propose the “Barney Frank Rule on Conservative Hypocrisy in General”. The “Frank Rule” is a rough consensus, proposed by Rep. Barney Frank, that many gay activists endorse regarding when it is appropriate to out gay conservatives who work against gay rights:
I think there’s a right to privacy. But the right to privacy should not be a right to hypocrisy. And people who want to demonize other people shouldn’t then be able to go home and close the door and do it themselves.
It can easily be generalized to criticism (not just the outing of perpetrators) of other forms of hypocrisy. And it provides a reasonable and fair way to respond to cases like Ensign’s. The issue isn’t whether he had an affair. It’s the fact that he uses his power to ruin lives and obstruct fundamental personal freedoms, and that he demands those same freedoms for himself while doing so.
The first is worse in impact, but the second both undermines his supposedly principled stance on the issues themselves, and ties him personally to the implicit position that such rules should not be imposed on “people who count”. The appropriate criticism of Ensign is not that he had an affair, and not even that he had an affair after criticizing others for having affairs, but that he signals, by his actions, that he regards his own policies as either meaningless political stunts or too harmful to be applied except to people he does not care about. One might also note that he apparently lacks the will to follow policies he seeks to impose on others by law or political pressure. This in no way lets non-hypocritical prudes and bigots off the hook, but it answers the question how to respond to the especially appalling spectacle of the use of other people’s private lives for political gain by people who indulge in the very behavior they punish in others.
The proper resolution - one that any decent person would have seen at once, and that Ensign now endorses by his own actions - is not to crack down harder on disapproved sex, but to leave other people’s sex lives the hell alone. And until prurient, finger-pointing conservative hypocrites are willing to extend the freedom and respect for privacy to everyone else that they demand in their own lives (their melodramatic public confessions notwithstanding), it’s fair game to make their lives the same tortured hunting ground of humiliation, exposure, and inquisition.
UPDATE: Steve Benen at the Washington Monthly ices the cake:
In 2004, the Nevada Republican lectured his colleagues, “Marriage is the cornerstone on which our society was founded. For those who say that the Constitution is so sacred that we cannot or should not adopt the Federal Marriage Amendment, I would simply point out that marriage, and the sanctity of that institution, predates the American Constitution and the founding of our nation.”
And did I mention that Ensign is a longtime member of the Promise Keepers, a conservative evangelical group that promotes strong families and marriages?
TOTALLY HILARIOUS RANDOM OBSERVATION: The Washington Post lists Congressional voting records broken down by various categories (party, state, gender, etc.), including voting members’ astrological sign.